Building Bridges
Originally posted June 2018
Welcome to June!
I hope all of the wonderful fathers out there have a fantastic Father's Day. I am so grateful for the challenging work you do and the very special love you provide for your little ones. The world needs you!
I also hope you are all enjoying the warmer months and gearing up to the official start of summer, which is June 21st.
Each season is represented by an element and as you may have guessed it, summer is represented by the element of FIRE.
Since we are also elemental beings, when we are aware of what is happening around us, we can use the elements to balance what is going on within us.
You may have noticed how during the summer, the earth yields more cooling and wet foods for us to enjoy, to balance the harshness of the heat. Can you imagine if you continued your hot latte habit when it is 100 degrees outside? It would be a safe bet to say you will experience imbalance in your body, of some kind.
So how do we stay balanced and in tune with what needs to shift, and when?
Through...
Listening deeply
Creating connections
Bridging the gap of separation
Integrating the new awareness.
This sounds like a long process, but with conscious presence, this can happen moment by moment. Making connections and building a bridge to create true integration is a simple formula that can be applied to almost any habit of wellbeing.
Separation is at the root of almost all imbalances; physical, spiritual, emotional and mental in nature. Something is just not connecting, or is blocked, which causes disharmony within the whole. To transform, transmute and integrate imbalances for harmony and wellbeing, we have to tap into the language of our feelings.
As a human being, you are made of more energy than matter and it is the emotional body that supports interpretation of all of the energetic information you are receiving in every moment. Humans are given this incredible Divine design that includes a feeling body. This feeling body gives one access to the energetic tapestry of this Universe; a place of pure potentiality.
Our feelings are signals within our body designed to guide us to the next best step, for our growth and evolution. Our feelings alert us when we are out of balance, because the body's true desire is to be in balance. If we listen and understand how to interpret the messages of our emotions, we can use the signals to provide ourselves with what we need. Our feelings provide subtle information so that we know when we are even slightly off balance, so we can begin to self-regulate, rather than ignore or avoid.
Did you know it is possible to experience anger, frustration or sadness without labeling it as bad?
Let me explain…
Emotions = Feeling + Mental Meaning
When we attach mental meaning to a feeling we label it as good or bad. You might be able to guess that you would naturally be more inclined to avoid, suppress or project an emotion which you deem as bad, or uncomfortable. The problem with this is that all feelings are designed to lead you back to more balance, happiness and wholeness. So if you are rejecting or denying the 'bad ones' you are actually keeping yourself in a holding pattern of separation within yourself and potentially withholding from those close to you, too.
It is only when we move through, connect with and integrate ALL feelings and ALL parts of ourselves that we live fully in a place of optimal wellbeing. Many may not believe this is possible and it may not be for them, because of the holding patterns they are keeping themselves in.
Emotional wellbeing is vital to utilization of intuition and to the degree in which one is able to respect and intimately connect with themselves and others, including plants and animals. As an emotionally well person, you will feel good about your decisions because you have a healthy relationship with autonomy and expressing how you feel. You take responsibility for what is yours and do not blame or shame yourself when you feel you have fallen short. Your relationships will be built on a strong foundation of interdependence, humility, trust and respect. Being emotionally well means you know how to find Option C - beyond right and wrong - a place of cooperation. This month, and beyond, I encourage each and everyone of you to take deep breaths and with clear sight, look at your reaction to your emotions.
How do you express anger and frustration? What is your relationship with sadness? Do you use humor as a coping mechanism? Some deep questions to ponder.
As someone who guides others to live in an embodied way, I too must practice what I preach. I consistently contemplate how I can build more bridges in my wellbeing and how I show up in the world, which includes how I connect with this wonderful community.
Connection creates empathy and I believe these are the superpowers of the future.
Bridging gaps in all areas of my wellbeing has brought so much wholeness and a deepened sense of worth to my life. Anytime I feel like 'something isn't working' I get quiet and feel into what needs attention and connection.
I would love to hear about how building bridges and making connections is improving your wellbeing. Please drop a comment below.
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Being the bridge,
Danae
